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#ATOZCHALLENGE DAY 20: T for TSUNAMI | My experience

** Disclaimer : Lengthy Post **

It was a wonderful Sunday, 26th December 2004, a day just after the Christmas. Studying a convent school Christmas was a huge celebration for us in school and after week-long Christmas activities it was time to be back to studies. I was in my 11th standard and had my morning Chemistry tuition. As usual my dad left me at the tuition center and went to the temple as there was some special day (Makaravilaku Pooja). My mother and elder brother were at home and sleeping. Since the day starts pretty early in the islands, my tuition was around 5 am in the morning much better than the 4 am mathematics tuition I went. 

We were in the middle of the class when at about 6 am the plastic chair in which my sir was seated started shaking. Since our sir always used to play pranks on us, we thought this was also another prank and were about to ignore it when the wooden sofa in which we were seated also started shaking terribly. And it just struck us that it’s another earthquake and we all stood up to rush out. Living in Andaman, earthquakes was never new to us, the islands are on the tectonic plates hence earthquake was not something the locals were not aware of. Only thing different about this time’s earthquake was that as we were heading outside the house the tremors were not stopping at all and it was more than just few seconds. We were not even able to walk out properly, the tremors were that bad and somehow we were all out under the open. I even fell down and broke my specs that I was wearing. I think the tremors lasted for at least 5 minutes which was unusual and then it stopped. By that time everyone was outside their houses and shocked as to what had just happened. We were just making sure that everyone was okay. Our sir told us to call our parents and called off the classes. All my close friends stayed in the same area so they all rushed to their houses to see if everything was okay. I gave a ring to my dad and he was also in shock and said he felt the tremors too and is on his way to pick me up.

Car Nicobar beaches destroyed by Tsunami

Dad came and picked me up. Before we left the area he suggested that we go and buy some fresh vegetables from the harbor side market and some sea food. We also went and met one of our relatives whose house was very close to the harbor. They stayed in government quarters and there were major cracks in the floor and walls. We checked on them and went to the market.  Suddenly we heard people talking that the passenger waiting hall at the port broke and fell in the sea, I was very curious to see it and started insisting on my dad that we go have a check. My dad scolded me and was like there would be too much crowd and the police would start chasing off people, so we better hurry up and reach home. He tried to call the landline but it was out-of-order and we assumed it to be because of the tremors. While we were hurrying buying few grocery we suddenly saw the crowd running towards us from the harbor and shouting “paani aa raha hai “ which meant water is coming. All of us around there couldn’t understand what meant by “pani aa raha hai” and the need to run. For the local this only meant the daily water supply that all the houses get and so people running shouting this line was weird. We tried to look a little further and we saw something that I would have never ever thought of or would ever want to see it again.

At about 6.30 am a huge wave almost five times the height of me (am 5”2) coming towards the market area and people running away from it. We couldn’t believe our eyes and all we wanted was to RUN. This was the same wave which hit Chennai and other places in India at about 9.30 am. My dad started the bike and we were riding as fast as possible among the chaos which already had started by this time. I still remember the moment when we were passing by the main road and the parallel street where the water was just flooding in was where my friends stayed. Tears rolled down my eyes because it was too late for us to go warn them and as the corner of my eye could see as far as possible it was water filling up the roads and houses. The only thought running in my dad and my mind was to reach home and be with mom and brother before we breathe our last. Meanwhile tremors kept happening and we were trying to warn as many people on the road shouting “pani aa raha hia” and like us no one was able to figure out what it meant. By the time we reached home mom and brother were standing in the front yard and looking panicked. Many of the coconut trees and other trees were uprooted or fallen down due to the earthquake. We tried explaining what we saw near the harbor and asked mom and brother to pack up anything important and to leave to some higher ground. Our house was near a school ground which was on a pretty higher area we decided to move up there. My mom just took some water bottle changed her night-dress and we headed to the big ground. By the time we reached almost everyone in our locality were also present there. I remember before leaving the house the huge crack on the floor and walls and were not even sure if we would come back alive. We were only happy for the fact that all four of us were together now. Everyone started talking what happened. None of us had ever heard of the natural phenomenon called Tsunami. We kept hearing people here and there as they came to the ground that the water is coming in big height waves and people are being taken into the sea etc. We stayed in the ground a day or two. I am still not able to remember what happened actually. The tremors continued but not like the one in the morning. When things got a little cooled down we came home. Everything was shut, no electricity no landline connection nothing at all. 

In this photo released by the Indian Coast Guard, a view of the North Sentinel Island from which the sea retracted after the Dec. 26 tsunami, and exposed coral reefs, foreground, in India’s Andaman and Nicobar archipelago.

This was my last memory of the tsunami. Thankfully other than the cracks in the house and the trees getting uprooted nothing happened to us or in our area since it was in a heighted place. But as hours went by we started hearing about people whom we know who got wiped off in the tsunami waves, their houses lost, family members lost. So many of my very close people lost lives. My friend Kavita’s dad who was posted in another island survived day one of the tsunami waves but eventually we never head back from him ever again. I remember my mom’s close friend who lost her elder son daughter in law and both the grand children in the tsunami. As days went by we got to know how severe the tsunami was in the islands. Due to lack of connectivity there was a huge communication gap. Once the landlines were up we informed our relatives in Kerala that all of us were fine and nothing happened to us. Then the news channels started showing the tsunami breaking news and even then it was about how badly Chennai was hit and “also Andaman”. 

The world especially India didn’t know how badly the Andaman and specially the Nicobar islands were hit by the Tsunami until the journalist Deepak Chourasia reached the islands. Almost 3 to 4 huge water wave wall swiped the entire island chain to destruction. Cars and other vehicles on the trees, house demolished, and roads filled with water. The entire air force residential area in the Nicobar Island got swept out. The Trinket Island broke into three pieces. The southernmost tip of India – Indira point’s light house was submerged by 4 mts. Many other islands. We kept hearing news of family and friends who lost lives. How bad the damage was and the relief work which started. Every day we would hear the news of someone found in some place, the lucky ones or the bodies of someone found under some building. It was a bad time. I remember since many schools were ruined and teachers lost their lives the public was being brought to Port Blair and all the city school students were sent to the relief camps for teaching them. I think this was about a month or so am not sure. I remember teaching the primary class students and like me many other people had started coming in to help in the relief work.

Reefs visible after the water levels changed

I was lucky to not have faced any personal loss not even materialistic but this event would always remind us of how small we are in front of nature. I remember a girl from my school Almas she was in 5th standard then.

Almas, 5th standard. Resting at her relatives place after being rescued from Nancowrie

Her missing report was being shown all over the news channels. She had lost her dad, her mother her younger sister and everyone from her maternal side in the tsunami. And the relief soldiers found her after some days. When the former President Late Shri A.P.J Abdul Kalam visited the islands few of us from the school were sent to attend the event and he called for this girl and made her sit on his lap and pamper her. It was an emotional scene leaving everyone’s eye wet. 

Locals of Nicobar Island

Andaman and Nicobar Islands survived the 9.2 Richter scale earthquake which triggered the Tsunami. It took the islanders about a year or so to come into regular life but we did. We didn’t lose faith and hope and we didn’t fight over things. We helped each other and stood by each other. We opened our doors for the homeless, we shared whatever we could with the deprived ones.

Loveleena, 4, receives food at a relief camp in Port Blair in the Andaman and Nicobar Islands on Jan 5, 2005.

Well this was my experience of the Tsunami. Just to state some more generic information about one of world’s tragic incident.

  • The western coast of Indonesia was shaken by a 9.2 magnitude earthquake, the fourth biggest in recent times.
  • The damage was felt in 14 countries, and 1.7m were made homeless in the aftermath. It was not one but subsequent Tsunami waves that left so many people homeless
  • It was also the longest earthquake ever recorded, lasting for between eight and ten minutes. Normally, a moderate earthquake might last a few seconds.
  • There was no tsunami warning system in the Indian Ocean to detect tsunamis or to warn the hundreds of thousands of people who lived in coastal areas.
  • Banda Aceh is the worst hit, with more than 60 per cent of its buildings destroyed by a wave that was over 30ft high.
  • The gap between the first Tsunami wave and the next was very less which left people surprised and no chance to recover from what happened.
  • The city of Port Blair, got saved because of the Ross island which divided the huge waves to two parts
  • The ancient knowledge of secret signals in the wind and sea combined to save the five indigenous tribes living for centuries in the Andaman and Nicobar islands from the catastrophic tsunami.
  • Katchal Island, part of the Andaman and Nicobar Islands, was one of the worst affected of the islands having lost some 90 percent of it’s population in the devastation by the tsunami waves.
  • As of today, many tsunami warning systems have been established and whenever there is heavy cyclone, depression or earthquake Tsunami warning is sent out across the island chain to warn people.

Its only during natural calamities when its humanity against nature that brings humans close to each other. And time and again it has been proven that the former always wins.

I dedicate this post to all those who lost their lives all over the world in the 26th December 2004 Tsunami. I also dedicate this post to all the family and friends of the people who lost their lives for whom it was such a big loss. I dedicate this post to all those people who contributed even in the tiniest way possible to support the relief work. God bless all !!!

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#ATOZCHALLENGE DAY 08: for Heavenly HAVELOCK Islands

“At the beach, life is different. Time doesn’t move hour to hour but mood to moment. We live by the currents, plan by the tides, and follow the sun.” – Anonymous 

Named after the British general, Sir Henry Havelock who had served in India these islands are the most famous of the entire 572 island group. Situated at a distance of about 57 kms from the capital Port Blair and to east of great Andamans, this beautiful island is spread over 113.93 km2.

With more than one beach(also termed as beach 1 which includes the port to beach 8) to its name these islands are definitely an Escapist’s hood.  Havelock is an amazing experience. Right from the seaplane to kayaking and white sandy beaches. It has multiple joy of adventure and beauty wrapped in itself.  

Radhanagar beach 

If Sun Sand and Sea is an idea of your perfect vacation then the Radhanagar beach is the place to be, for it holds the honor of Asia’s best and World’s 7th best beach and 6th best in terms of bluest water. Yes you heard it right, Asia’s best beach ❤ ❤ ❤ It is a 3 km long stretch of pristine white sand covered beach. The warm crystal blue water and the white sand is the hallmark of these places. Radhanagar beach is also very popular with surfers as the beach tends to have gigantic waves during the surfing season. 

When you don’t feel like getting out of the sea

Kalapathar beach

PC : Andaman Tourism Department

Kalapathar beach is a remote beach about 10kms from havelock jetty.The beach is accessible by road and is famous with couples and nature lovers.It is picture perfect and far less crowded than Radhanagar beach. For the ones who prefer spending some lonely time in natures wilderness this is the perfect spot.  Also you can trek down to this amazing lagoon which is known to very few. Check out the video captured from a drone of this secret lagoon.

The Elephant beach 

PC : Nelson bhaiya

The Elephant beach is stunningly beautiful and looks straight out of a postcard. You would definitely end up using the hashtag “#nofilter” because no filter would do justice to the beauty of the images one would capture. The beach is not accessible by road and the only way to reach the elephant beach is by hiring a speed boat or dinge from Havelock jetty. Elephant beach is ideal for water-sports activities because it’s crystal clear waters .Water sports activities like jet ski, scuba diving, snorkeling and underwater sea-walk are conducted at the beach.

Apart from all this, it is well known for its most loved resident  RAJAN  – the legendary elephant that swims 

The Andamans draw thousands of people to its pristine shores year after year. Among the many treasures you uncover on the islands, blue waves and sun-kissed beaches are just the tip of the iceberg. Just take a walk towards the beautiful Beach No. 7 and you’ll find the fantastic elephant, Rajan, waiting to welcome you. But how did an elephant make its way to the Andamans? 

Once upon a time, an elephant named Rajan lived in the thick jungles of Karnataka, where he was surrounded by tall trees, wild animals and birds. Rajan loved the jungle and everything that came with it. One fine day, Rajan was relocated from the jungle and sent to a land that was surrounded by water. He adapted to his new surroundings and discovered the joy of swimming by taking regular dips in the ocean. Since then, he has been basking on the white sandy beaches of the magnificent Andaman Islands. 

On the island, Barefoot at Havelock took him in with open arms. As the only rainforest seaside resort in Asia, Barefoot had left no stone unturned to make the environment a wonderful home for the majestic animal. Once when a temple in the southern Indian state of Kerala offered his then owner a sizable amount for Rajan, the resort decided to pay the eye-popping sum of around Rs 25 lakhs to keep the beloved pachyderm. Rajan loved to meet his admirers and greets them with a thunderous trumpet. Guests could even opt to bathe their four-legged friend at the holiday resort on request.  

Rajan was an exceptionally skilled swimmer and had been seen going against the tide on a few occasions. The diving elephant was one among the last few left of its kind on our planet. He had been featured in commercials all over the world and has even appeared in Hollywood movies like 2006 Hollywood movie THE FALL and other famous websites like the Huffington Post. And that’s exactly why Rajan was the most loved resident of Beach No. 7.  

Sadly Rajan took his last breath sometime in the intervening night of July 31 and Aug 01 when he was about 66 years old. Rajan’s body lies deep within the forests of his adopted home where it will lay undisturbed after 66 years of a truly unconventional life.  

Besides these three beaches, the Havelock islands have few other beaches which are open to public like the Vijayanagar beach and some which are yet to be explored. And how do you reach this paradise on earth? 

Well the two hour distance to Havelock Islands can be taken either via a govt ferry or the famous Makruzz which is a favorite among tourists. While the govt ferry does four rounds a day, the Makruzz does only two trips one in the morning and one in the afternoon.  

Thats the inside of the Makruzz, from our last day way back to Port Blair

Seaplane Ride  

If you thought we were done with the attractions of Havelock, then the answer is “not yet”. Brace yourself, for the Seaplane Ride. Havelock has its own commercial seaplane service named “Jal Hans”. Jal Hans is India’s first commercial seaplane service. The airline is jointly owned by Pawan Hans, India’s largest helicopter services provider and the Union territory of Andaman Islands and is run on an equal Revenue sharing basis. Seaplane is a must ride. The beauty of flying over the shimmering sea blue water is something you cannot afford to miss. 

Radhanagar beach is also famous for the beautiful sunset it offers to the travel lovers. Below is another time lapse video recorded by my friend Saketh and Sanjay during our vacation. I remember the only time we came out of the water was to have food and play some cards for about an hour, and again we were into the water. In our seven day vacation, we chose to stay three days in Havelock. 

 If ever you plan on visiting the Andaman islands, please make sure you stay a minimum of two to three days. And now you know whom to contact in case you need any help 🙂 😀 

 

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#ATOZCHALLENGE DAY05: E For Experience Scuba Diving | My first

PC @monsieur.lopez

Disclaimer – Long Post 🙂

I remember it was the summer vacation i was in my first standard and my brother and all the other elder cousins were playing in the river which ran behind my uncle’s home back in Kollam, Kerala. I was the only girl in my paternal side then and i was insisting in going to the water as well. And since none of the cousins wanted to take my responsibility of taking care of me i was just watching them and crying non stop.
Finally my uncle agreed to take me to the water as well. I still remember this crystal clear (i have a sharp memory 🙂 ) my grandmother gave me a piece of advice, she said “When you go into the water remember and the water level reaches your chin, do not take a sudden breath or else you would always be scared of getting into water” . And i finally was in the river playing with my cousins . 

PC – dad 🙂

Post that whenever we used to go to the beach in Andamans’ i would not be scared to get into water, i would go right up till my chin while am standing straight in water (whatever the height that would be) and jump when the waves would hit me. 

Only regret I COULD NEVER MANAGE TO LEARN SWIMMING 😦  I know i know me being from the islands its shameful and embarrassing to not know swimming but the thing was there never was a swimming pool kind of facility for my parents to send me for classes. If i had to learn swimming it would be going to the beach and my dad teaching me which was not really practical. I was too busy enjoying my dance classes and taking part in other literary competitions. Beaches only meant picnics, getting into water to take bath and just play even though i would always regret not knowing how to swim specially when i saw my other friends getting into the sea and swimming or even the swimming pool for a matter. My job would be to sit by the side and hand them food and drinks when needed.

Years went by , I’ll be 30 this July and i hate to say this but i don’t know swimming even now 😦 (hoping to learn this summer..which is already here). But one thing was always on my bucket list SCUBA DIVING. It became even more an adventure that i wanted to fulfill anyhow when i had learnt you don’t really need to know swimming to do scuba diving(thanks to Zoya Akhtar and Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara). There always is a way if you really want to do something in life 😛

Scuba diving became a popular water sport in the last few years in Andaman and Nicobar Islands and whenever i went home for a vacation it would be just a week or two and mostly i would be home and catching up with family friends and relatives. There was no possibility of me going to the beach and take up diving.  

I had not given up hope and had to do scuba diving before my 30th birthday and finally it happened, yes my first ever scuba diving experience and i don’t have words to describe how beautiful that feeling is. It was exactly the #ZindagiNaMilegiDobara moment when Hrithik Roshan takes his first dive and the poem in the background, it was exactly that. Click here to watch 

And it happened

On 12th Feb 2017 i did my first scuba diving. All thanks to my friends who joined me in a week long vacation to Andamans and i decided to join them as well as a tourist and see more of my beautiful hometown. We were doing the scuba diving through the BAREFOOTSCUBA. Barefoot Scuba is the first and only PADI 5 Star Instructor Development Resort in the Andaman Islands established in 2004 I knew them personally since it was part of the Barefoot Resorts whose Operational Manager is my brother and also the diving instructors were known to me. My dive instructor was Bunty bhaiya (the one in the first pic and in the video you cant watch below). Other than these also there are Scuba Dive Operators like the Dive India, Andaman Bubbles Scuba Diving .

The Training and the Dive

The 45 minute scuba diving session included 15 minutes of training and then 30 minutes of dive of up to 13-14 meters underwater. For a non swimmer like me 14 meters is a big deal 🙂 We chose the North Bay islands for scuba diving unlike the Havelock where generally tourists do the scuba diving. One because we knew them personally and second the rush is less in North Bay compared to Havelock, so the divers too are not in a hurry. 

Thats after the training all set to go for the dive

To start with the training we were told all the hand gestures that we would be using underwater like Ok, not okay , up, down, nose block, ear pain, water getting into the mouth etc. Then you are made to practice to breathe through your mouth wearing the scuba gears. Trust me this is the most difficult part, i had a tough time to get used to breathing through the mouth.

Then the moment arrived, once the trainers checked for all the precautions and revised us through the hand gestures they pulled us along with them inside water. Ideally its one instructor with two people but i got to go alone with Bunty bhaiya, perks of being an islander. I didn’t even realize and i was already underwater. It was beautiful, calm and quiet, it was a different world all together. The only sound i could hear was my heart beat and the sound of me breathing in and out.

PC – Bunty bhaiya’s friend while we were diving

I saw some small fishes of different colors, corals, also managed to see a sea cucumber and a sea urchin (which was not new to me, had seen them before also) . It was so beautiful that i stopped breathing in between and suddenly my ears started paining. I think i came up above water twice in the 30 minute dive. I did want to see the Nemo but i couldn’t but i have heard people telling they saw the Nemo, below is one such pic my friend Saketh clicked.

Time flies underwater, before i could get the whole hang of it thirty minutes was up and time for me to say bye to the amazing marine life. I feel so proud to be from Andaman not that i was not before but after the dive i get the whole idea of why people enjoy diving so much and travel all the way to these islands for diving and snorkeling.

As always, leaving you all with few more pics clicked by Saketh : 

 Here is my scuba diving video to give you a sneak peek of what the underwater life looks like. The BarefootScuba makes sure your memories are captured forever. Also they give us a certificate once we finish our dive which is pretty good 

Watch till the end to see the fishes 🙂 (or skip to 1:06)

I am determined to go for even more scuba diving sessions once i learn swimming so that i can become better than my first one in terms of breathing and not letting the claustrophobia hit me which has always stopped me from learning swimming.

Andaman as a Scuba diving destination

The azure waters surrounding the Andaman Islands make it a treasure trove to dive into and snorkel around.

Pristine dive spots and enchanting fish life have ensured that the Andamans are now considered as a diving hot spot and divers from all around the world make their way to these islands simply to scuba dive. Irrespective of whether you can swim or not – as long as you are at least 8 years old, you too can try your hand at diving and get addicted for life!

One can also take up advanced level certification and become a certified diver. Many folks from all over the world actually come to Andaman to take up the diving certifications. 

You can also check out some instagrammers who are based in Andamans and their profiles are a treat to watch. @tara.oceanista and @nelson_raju

Have you done scuba diving? Where and how was your experience? Is it on your bucket list, if yes then some serious advice – PLEASE DO IT.  Don’t think about it even for a second, the moment you get a chance just do it. Let me know if you liked this post (i know this was a long long one).

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#‎ThisThingCalledLove‬ – Yes it exists

When you see people falling apart in relationships, getting divorced from just within weeks to years being in a married life, hearts breaking in college canteens, in office parking lots, people moving out of each others lives just by dropping a text message which reads “its over” or sometimes people just chose to walk out of someones life even without saying a word, you begin to imagine there is no such thing called love. There is no such thing called “happily ever after”. Love stories seem to be all different kinds of lies portrayed in a beautifully packaged manner on big screens. You kind of give up on love. 

And then you see few stories which are just beyond words, which makes you realize that there is called true love. Happily ever after do exist. Eternal love stories do exist. And one such story that makes me believe in love every single time is the story of my parents. Their love for one another is so magnetic and so strong that even after five years since my mother left us forever on her way upto heaven, their love story is as new as it was in 1980.

My mother, the heroine of the love story- Late Mrs. Hawaumma (which means first lady in someones life) was from a Muslim religion and was working as a teacher. The hero of the movie my dad Mr. Sasi Kumar, a Nair Hindu fellow was working with the Timber Co operation. Both these people in a beautiful place my hometown – Andaman and Nicobar Islands.

Dad was this young 28 yr old brat who had just started working and was enjoying life to its fullest. Mom, 27 yr old focused towards her job, an achievement for her cause she had been through enough struggles back in those days to even get proper education one being a gal and second her religion always were her shackles while growing up. Well theirs was not love at first sight but definitely a proper Bollywood movie – romance, action, drama,conspiracy you name it and all of these was in their love story. Both mom and dad had one best friend each who were the love birds of the town and back in late 70’s to roam around in public was not as easy or close to as it is today. So both these love birds were accompanied by their best friends to all the lovey dovey spots they went by my parents. While the love birds spent quality time together, my parents would spend time talking about life, dreams and aspirations eventually making them best friends. 

And just like always “A guy and a girl can never become best friends” people started talking about them. Their friendship was being questioned, people would talk behind their back. Well this didn’t stop them from making their friendship stronger. But when things went out of hands and my moms family got to know about the rumours in town, she was questioned, her job was at stake and all those typical movie scenes you could remember just visualize those (well that’s what i did when she told me their love story when i was a kid).

My dad being this dignified gentleman asked my mom to marry her – so this was like a Hindu guy and a Muslim girl getting married. Even in 2016 honor killing stories surfaces up this was back in 1970’s so you can imagine the amplitude of shock people had including my mother. My mother definitely had true feelings for dad as a friend he was her best friend and she didn’t want to ruin it and said no to his proposal. My dad being this even more true friend to her didn’t want her to be in trouble in anyway. He couldn’t take people talking about her character in even the slightest of disrespectful manner. So he convinced her and against all family and society they got married on 10th Feb, 1980. Yeah the valentine week!!! :) There was lot of melodrama, moms parents being against it, threatening calls to my dad. But with a bunch of close friends who still are by our side helped these two friends tie up in a beautiful bond called marriage. 

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Technically speaking it was arrange marriage cause my dad fell in love with my mom after they got married, before that they were best friends!So yeah these two people got married against all odds. With no support from anyone they stood strong for one another and built a beautiful world of their own and that got completed when my brother and me were born to them. 

Ours was a middle class, happy family- dad,mom, bhaiya and me. Life was good. My parents always told us how strong family values should be, how no matter what family is where love begins and ends. My dad would make all the decisions in the house but it always was discussed and approved by mom. They remained like friends even after the wedding. That’s how i kept seeing them while my growing years.

He never asked my mother to change her name or religion after their wedding. When one day when she was newly married and had been to school the Hindu teachers asked he to put sindoor bindi etc like how hindu brides are supposed to be. And when she came back from school my dad saw her and told her that he liked her for how she was, what she was. He asked her to be the same Hawaumma, his best friend and not change for society or for him. He respected her religion, her values, her invidiuality,her existence. That to me is #ThisThingCalledLove

But our world fell apart when my mom fell crashing on the ground one morning in the year 2000. She was rushed to the hospital and then the tests the reports came she was suffering from Rheumatoid Arthritis – a chronic progressive disease causing inflammation in the joints and resulting in painful deformity and immobility, especially in the fingers, wrists, feet, and ankles. This was very new to people back home. And since then till 17th July 2011 when she left us all here alone i have seen her go through immense pain and suffering. Many reasons for that lack of knowledge about the whole disease, trying all possible kinds of healing Allopathy, Ayurveda, Homeopathy even doing all the non scientific stuff cause of the only hope that she would be better one day. 

Well this story is not about the sufferings of my mom, or about the disease. This story is about Love these two people had. This story is more about my dad. This story is how my dad loved my mom. I have learnt from him what it is to love unconditionally beyond physical appearance and looks, to take care of the loved ones first and think about yourself later. My mom’s story is complete if its not my dad who had been with her all those years of pain and suffering and instead just showered her with love,care, trust, faith and hope and the will to be a better person the next day. 

He kept her before himself and loved her with all that he had. He would cook for her, feed her, stay awake all night when mom would be in pain, help her do every single thing. And on top of all this tolerate all her crankiness cause of her medicines she was taking. Times when he would lose his temper but come back and say sorry only to make her feel good. He loved her like her baby. Only thing in his mind 24×7 was her and her health. He would go beyond his comfort zone to do anything to see that little smile on her face in all that pain. Sometimes we don’t realize but more than the person who is ill its the pain the loved ones around kinda bear every day.

When her cremation rituals was going on people asked how do you want to do it – the hindu style or the muslim style and my dad only said whatever she wanted. Well my mom had told her best friends and me that whenever she dies she wanted her body to be buried and not burnt she was too scared of fire. So we did do the cremation as she wanted. My dad chose to do what she wanted not what his religion demanded. That for me was #ThisThingCalledLove.

And what holds this love story so important for me and beautiful to me is not because its about my parents but its because its a love story which continues even after one person in the story has left this world. My dad would keep a portion of all the food items every meal separate first and then have his own from the last five years. And when we asked him the first time why he did it, he said “am so used to feeding her first since the last 11 years that i can’t take a bite without giving her first even though she is not here anymore”. My brother and me were speechless. We didn’t know what to tell him. That for me was #ThisThingCalledLove

He still buys birthday and anniversary greeting cards for mom, would write a small message for her and keep it near mom’s pic in the living room. He would visit her grave almost every other day, every ocassion – every 17th of every month(that’s the date when she passed away),her  birthday, their anniversary, our birthdays, festivals both Hindu and Muslim ones, even on teachers day and whenever anything important. The latest being when my dad bought an Activa for himself (kinda trend among men in the 60’s to buy Activa) and took it to show mom. :)

He lives every day loving her even more and more. He lives every day waiting to meet her in another world. He lives every day for her children- bhaiya and me. He lives every day knowing that the only woman he loved ever was her. 

That love is the love which makes me grow every single day knowing that Love is Pure. Love is not just in this world love is when the partner is in another world. Love is to appreciate those smallest of things that would make the partner smile. Love for me are my Parents Love Story.

May all of us find love in our lives. Love which is unconditional. Love which doesn’t demand. Love which only knows to give. Love which only knows the happiness of the other.

This post is a part of ‪#‎ThisThingCalledLove‬  activity hosted on Women’s Web calling out for  #InvitingLoveStories

Ending it with one of my favorite love song – 

Happy Valentines Day!! Live. Love.Laugh.

Happen to see this image on a talented illustrators fb page that i follow religiously and couldn’t stop from sharing it here. It totally summarizes my post. Thanks a ton friend. 

Please do check out his fb page Inkology, some really good stuff on the wall. 

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The ‘Cockroach Theory’ for Self Development

Nope am not gonna talk about dissecting a cockroach neither am going to talk about the insect behaviour here but am definitely going to talk about the Cockroach Theory that teaches one of Life’s Most Important Lesson – yeah you read that right cockroaches and life lesson!!! 🙂 And where did i hear that from, none other than our very own

Sundar Pichai, CEO, Google.SP

Since Sundar Pichai took over the role of Google’s CEO, Google is actually overloaded with so many articles about him,his education, his life,  interviews, his wife even his salary..you don’t trust me , check this image. sundar pichai salaryThe Cockroach Theory came into news from one of his most recent interviews and i think it’s so perfect and if at all we learn from it most of us would find ourselves easily getting out of trouble or rather would never get into any kinda trouble(does this make me like cockroaches..?? NOOO) So this is how the theory goes….happy reading!!

“At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.

She started screaming out of fear.

With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but …it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.

In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.

When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach 

responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?

He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it’s my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.

I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive, whereas responses are always well thought of, just and right to save a situation from going out of hands, to avoid cracks in relationship, to avoid taking decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or hurry.

A beautiful way to understand…………LIFE.

Person who is HAPPY is not because everything is RIGHT in his Life…

He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!”

–         Sundar Pichai

That’s quite an insight. Thanks Sundar Pichai for making India proud.

P.S – 3 more days to CHRISTMAS and 9 days for 2016 !!! Yippeee !!!

Guys… I tell you! How many have you come across??

The weather after almost two weeks has turned out to be absolutely amazing here in Bangalore.   🙂 🙂 As i begin my day with a hot steaming cup of tea, some cookies to munch i was going through some random articles in continuation with International Men’s Day Celebration i came across this article by MADHURI BANERJEE which i perfectly describes all the kinds of men we as girls have come across in our lives(at least most of them).

I really think we are incomplete without these men around us, these men in our lives help us grow as a better individual in our lives no matter what phase in life or in what situation they make their appearance. So happy reading gals (and guys). 

THE 5 GUYS EVERY WOMAN MUST HAVE

I have always believed that Draupadi was lucky. After all, she was legalized as the wife of five men. She really didn’t need to fake a headache when it got boring with the same guy. Moreover, I am sure none of them doubted her integrity when she waved goodbye to one and went off into the sunset with another. If we all had our way, we would have five guys at any given point of time. However, since we are not Draupadi, we should at least have five before we settle down with one.

1. The Best FriendWhy do we need Close Friends-To pick us frm Railway Station at 2 a.m.-TO kick you at midnight on ur Birthday-LIFE-best-quotes-sayings-best-friends-lovers-boy-girl-cartoon

You would have known this guy for a very long time. He might even have had a crush on you at some point. But somewhere, you’ve never been attracted to him in that way and you don’t want to lose him for a silly reason like sex. Your guy best friend is the one you turn to when you really don’t want to tell your girlfriends exactly what you are thinking. He’s the one who admires your black humor and praises your stupidity. He can take you out for ice cream when you’re feeling low and buy you a drink when you want to get smashed. But he will always bring you home safely and still love you in the morning. Your guy best friend will cheer you up because he’s always there. You need him because he’s the one who will “complete” you. But he’s the one you can’t ever be in love with. Because that is not something, you feel from your heart.

2.  The Bad Boy

good_girls_love_bad_boys_by_jackofalltrades0097-d616dqqWhether it is a biker or a commitment phobic, a smoker or an alcoholic, the bad boy is someone who cries out to women to look after him. His compulsive need to be different attracts women so much to him that they feel they are the only ones who can reform these men. The nurturing quality of women makes them vulnerable to these bad boys. And the men do reform. They stop their bad habits for a bit. They convince the women that they have changed, that they cannot live without these women and they will die if these women leave. Soon enough they pick up another bad habit even if they have given up an old one. Their need to be different, stand out, and seek attention makes them compulsively rebel. The bad boy makes a woman discover that no man can ever change. Even after she gets married, instead of getting frustrated with attempting to change her husband, she will remember this lesson and try another day.

3. The Ex

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“That’s my ex boyfriend – so you’ve got some pretty big shoes to fill!”

This man came and swept you off your feet. He was charming, attractive, intelligent, and funny. Everything that you wanted and loved. There was a brief romance where you felt he loved you and everything was hunky dory. Then all of a sudden, it was over. After repeated calls, text messages and stalking on social networking sites, the dialogue ended and there was silence. It took you months to figure out if you had been the problem. You spend nights in analyzing the things you could have done to change his mind. And weekends are spent crying and watching re-runs at home since you have no place to go and you don’t want sympathetic glances from your friends. The Ex is the Unrequited Love you feel was your True Love. The one that got away, the one that should have been your “soulmate.” But it’s not meant to be. The Ex was a part of your life because it was supposed to fill you up with something to do. It was a distraction to your boredom. It was a necessary relationship to make you understand that men will come and go but you need to be strong for yourself. The Ex always needs to happen. Only then can you have a Current.

4.  The Love Buddy
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Fact: Dating has become difficult. By the time you ask people to set you up, you get ready, go on a date, enjoy the other person’s company, and decide he is worth spending time with; a few years would have passed. In the meantime, hot showers and bubble baths are getting boring. You need more. You need a Man. That is when the love buddy comes in handy. This is a person who is very discreet. He has as much to lose as you do. He needs you to keep his secret as much as you never want this relationship getting out. He is the man who you can call just to fulfill your base need and continue with your life. He might not be a great conversationalist, or a great looker but he is awesome in bed. In fact, he should be so good that you don’t need him for anything else. You don’t need to go out for dinner and movies or take long walks and discuss books. This man is purely there for lust. You know you will never marry him and he knows you’ll never ask for a commitment. He is the one who knows your body and you do not care whether he doesn’t know your mind or soul. However, the joy of this relationship will last only until the time you have no emotional attachment. As soon as you feel you’re getting entangled, it needs to stop and his number to be deleted permanently. It must never be spoken about. This is one skeleton you must take to your grave!.

5.  The Husband VarietyiuFQM

Indian Moms always know the husband variety. That is why they are excellent at picking up the right boy for an arranged marriage. He is the one who is stable with a good career and a level head. In comparison to your flighty goals and loud laughter, this man will indulge you and tell you the pros and cons of what you’re planning or even give you suggestions on what you should be planning. He will be caring with the parents, bond with your siblings and drive your drunken friends home at night. He will have conversation that makes sense and support you for the right reasons. The husband is the man who everyone will love. And you will love him back. He will be the one you should settle down with. The husband might not seem right “for now,” but he will be the right one, forever.

Do lemme know if you have come across such men in your life 🙂 Enjoy the men around you enjoy each other and enjoy Sunday!!! Loads of love people!

P.S. – Draupadi (Pronunciation: [d̪rəʊpəd̪i]) is described as the Tritagonist in the Hindu epic, Mahabharata. According to the epic, she is the “fire born” daughter of Drupada, King of Panchala and also became the common wife of the five Pandavas.

Image courtesy – Google (o’namah)

Urgent Issue – RESOLVED!!!!

I have been really busy with few stuff and couldn’t update the post on time. The problem got resolved on 1st November only, the very next day of the initial post.  Also its raining heavily here in Bangalore (In the month of November, winter is still coming here 😛 ) So talking about the whole incident i have my take below. Hope you have fun reading it.

 Problem Description – “Hello friends…I accidentally logged out of my WordPress account and now when I am trying to login its asking for one time password which I am not receiving at all… how can I resolve this…. please please help..this post somehow I managed from an already logged in account in my old mobile.”

Result- A big THANK YOU to everyone who responded instantly. I am happy to announce that I am able to access my blog once again 🙂 🙂 🙂 I had tried all the possible solutions provided by fellow bloggers, google (for once google didn’t help me at all) but nothing worked until after 12 hours i started getting the One-Time Password messages on my mobile number almost around 15+ messages (i was very impatient and had tried as many times i could possibly try).  So i am assuming it was something to do with the network issue either on my mobile network or the WordPress server. Whatever it was, i was under panic attack for good long time. 😦

Lesson Learnt from this incident – The first thing i learnt was to be PATIENT. After all how much can you trust the digital stuff. So next time something of this sort happens to me or to you all we got to do is wait for sometime (which could be few hours or the next day  :P) and then try. Secondly I never realized how BLOGGING HAS BECOME AN IMPORTANT PART OF MY LIFE.   ❤ ❤ ❤ It was like all that i had invested in the last three months was just lost in few seconds, i couldn’t imagine of not being able to have my own space in this world, or to reach out to the many friends i have made in the blogging community. Some things become more important once you have faced the fear of losing them or lost them. This was a feeling i had associated only with people and not it applies to everything and anything important to me. Third lesson i learnt is sometimes PUSHING YOURSELF TOO MUCH IS ALSO NOT GOOD. So i simply went ahead and disabled the two-step authentication procedure 😛 guess its way better than the whole panic attack i had for couple of hours.

Quick Tips – For people who have access to social media – twitter/Facebook do join the WordPress support forums and community so that in case of such an issue or any other problem we have a help guide, besides the usual blog support groups also the advantage being someone or the other would be using WordPress in the world no matter what time zone

Until the next post Stay Happy Stay Cool and Stay Patient (dts for me)

Jean – You asked and i answered!

This post is specially addressed to Jean from Miss Twisted Sense Of Humor who had asked me few questions in her Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award for which she was nominated by me only 😛 🙂 and am so glad she had answered my questions (tough and that would definitely make you think before you pen down – do have a look at Jean’s Answers!

So now time to answer her questions (i love this part about blogging helps know the fellow blogger a little bit more every time):

A unique quality of yours? – hmm sadly i don’t think i have anything unique about me but am good at doing many things be it academics, dance, art, sports, cooking , entertaining people with my stories, being a daughter to a Hindu Dad and Muslim Mom, being born and brought up in Andaman and Nicobar Islands,India etc etc isn’t that UNIQUE 🙂 

What’s your jam? – My playlist changes with the moon ( am a cancerian and our mood changes with the changes in the moon 😛 ) so yeah too many songs from too many genres and languages. I am a multi linguist (Indian languages alone , haven’t crossed the country yet)

What are ur views on alcohol? What’s ur preferred alcohol and why? – I am gonna be very straight with my thoughts here. It’s clearly known that too much of anything is not good for health. So if one wants to get into trouble so be it have as much as you can. Everyone is grown up to make the choices they want to and i think that’s totally fine. Only thing that i cant tolerate is doing irritating things, losing control, puking around, ending up hurting others and oneself and then blaming it on the alcohol. I have tasted all kinds of liquor but i prefer a red wine on any day it goes with any kind of audience, place, mood and yet looks classy!

What is the first thing that comes to your mind when I say ‘feminism’? – I sometimes feel its over rated, feminism is like two sides of the coin. People tend to use it according to their convenience which i think is totally wrong. Feminism is to feel equal in the society to the male species and should not be mistaken as a means to prove them wrong or inferior or get things done easily for you the woman community. And feminism is not just restricted to one gender but should be considered equally in the society. It does not mean hate men or hate girls (every  girl has that one girl on their target hit list :P), it simply means equality in total.

One character in a book/movie who you connect with? – I think i have more than Fifty Shades of Sneha so i personally connect with many characters both in books and movies and i like that and wouldn’t want to restrict myself to just one. I could  be the Cinderella one day and fighting out in the battle like a Spartan queen, Some days i am the Joy from Inside out and some days i am the Cersei Lannister or Mystique from Marvels for being powerful and clear in what they wanted 🙂 🙂 🙂

Do you have any regrets? If so, what is it? – I do many during different years of my life but that feeling would last for a month or two till the time i am done repenting about it and crying but then i treat all of those moments as lessons learnt and add them as experiences in my life. But only regret that’s constant throughout is i always end up thinking from my heart and land up in trouble i forget to carry the brain along 😛

What is the stupidest thing you have ever done? – I’m actually embarrassed to tell this.:) I accidentally walked into a men’s washroom in my office. And i have a proper justification for this. It was my first day in that particular office campus and i was hurrying to catch my office bus in the evening, and most of the times i have seen the ladies washroom to be on the left of men’s washroom which was not in this case. But thankfully there were hardly any men, just a few washing hands and setting their hair ( i didn’t turn to the other side, lucky me:) ) And then when i realized i had entered the wrong place which took almost a minute or two i ran out of the door without even looking back.

One person that you would die to meet – In the literal sense, I would die to meet my Mom again! That should answer it all.

If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you be? And don’t say home! – Anywhere in this world would do if i could survive one the climatic conditions and two with my loved ones. But i would like to visit Corsica, Bora Bora ,Bali some day.

What do you think about me? 😀  Please be honest! – Hmm so one day i end up at this 19-year-old gal’s blog Jean and i read her posts and more specifically her post Okay (deep breath).This is it!!! and i was happy to know that she was all sorted to know about herself what she actually liked and things she hated (at 19, i was busy doing my graduation and accepting my daily changing attitude and persona). Few things i could totally relate to her in her post being south Indians, breaking things and not hearts, not having a backspace key for my mouth etc. She is fun, young, bubbling with ideas and things to talk about and for being very honest in her words. So Jean, be the way you are, be in love with yourself and make every one happy around you and with your posts in the blogging world. Wishing you all the happiness and love girl! muah 🙂

P.S: I hope i answered your questions 🙂 Waiting to hear from you. Loads of love and many congrats for the award once again!!!

It took me 10 years to learn this!!!

Note – this is by far one my longest posts!! Please bear with me 🙂 🙂

This Sunday morning i decided to go back in time and review my life for the last 10 years. Until i was 18, the most strongest and dominant of emotions in my head was joy,fun,happiness and confidence which has been amalgamated by many other emotions like anger, fear, sadness, self-pity and disgust.

Lesson Learnt 01: It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, & to make your Happiness a priority. It’s a necessary .Though a little late for a 28-year-old , independent modern aged women i have realized that loving yourself is the best way to live a happy, guilt-free life. In this manner you end up not giving expectations to others neither you start expecting something from others and with such an attitude-you don’t blame a second person but hold yourself responsible for the outcomes – happy or sad, whatever it is.

My mom always said that i am the kinds who learns from my mistakes and i took it up so seriously that sometimes even though i knew i am gonna ruin things up and where i am heading to is a big mistake i ended up doing it just cause i thought its an attitude (learning from my mistakes) am born with…. i was SO DUMB and STUPID!!!

As kids we are always taught to love others, respect others which i totally agree since we are all social animals and need to be in harmony with other Homo sapiens around us. But what i think most importantly as kids we should be taught to love ourselves first. Only when we are happy and love our self we could spread that love to others.In loving others we somewhere down the line stop loving our own self.

Lesson Learnt 02 : SELF – PITY is easily the most destructive of non pharmaceutical narcotics. It is Addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from Reality I have realized that most of our problems are conditioned. We try to find happiness by self-pity which my friends is only a temporary thing. We sympathize with our selves, the situation and circumstances we are in. And in this process we end up creating more and more suffering for us. Like the laws of attraction says  – the energy you send out is what you attract. What i have most importantly learned is that this self-pity leads in a deadlock – we pity and sympathize about our self and then we expect people around us to sympathize for us. If i am sad and gloomy how can i give happiness to others and attract same from them. If I am in a mess there would be some percentage of chances that I was responsible for it, cause of the choices I had made or for the pressure I succumbed to etc. So Self-Pity is a no no!

Lesson Learnt 03:  You teach people how to treat you. By what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce. Isn’t it true? I wish when i had said NO on certain instances if at all i had sent out a clear message that a NO meant a NO and not a MAYBE or YES, i would have saved few heart breaks and few failures :P. If at all i had been more blunt in my words, as said before setting expectations (the first point – see they are all inter related only if i had realized). I wish i had built a strong line of defense for myself and not letting people harm me easily. Boundaries that didn’t mean to demean me or anyone else but would  penetrate to people who could handle my worse and my good both equally. And in this process few people might have left me or would leave me – everyone has a right to choose for themselves , if I am not the chosen one then I should accept it. I should be ready to move on and value the ones who chose to stay with me.

Lesson Learnt 04: If you don’t ask ..the answer is always no. If you don’t go after what you want..you’ll never have it. If you don’t step forward..you’re always on the same spot. Ahh!! this is one of my fav lessons learnt in the last 10 years. Be it the profession we want to choose, the relationship we want to take forward, the kind of job/salary you are eligible for, the reason why someone else was chosen over you for a promotion, a better opportunity, or for as simple as the one rupee you are supposed to get back as balance from the shopkeeper instead you are handed over by a toffee. Unless we question things that happen to us we wouldn’t know its credibility. Life is to a larger extent is all about the choices we make so it is absolutely perfect and normal to questions those options life gives you. 

Lesson Learnt 05: I am not a product of my circumstances I am a product of my decisions. When in trouble in any kind of situation – physical, emotional or mental – if you aren’t happy about it you have two options – either accept it or fight it. It could be from choosing to move out of a bad and abusive marriage or choosing to move out cause you thought you and your partner were not compatible. It’s your life you have the right to redesign it for yourself. It could be choosing to fight against a disease you have been diagnosed with or just letting that diseases take over you your body and your life. It could be either telling the ugly truth to someone close to you or just bitching about them on their back and praising them on their face. So either accept things or fight against it. There is no savior. No one can save you unless you decide to take stand and take control of things, family and friends are only there to guide you.

Lesson Learnt 06: Family is where life begins and love never ends. They are always there for you no matter how old you become, how far you have grown in your life, how many people have come and gone in your life…they would always stay there by your side ..ALWAYS! People might come and go, promise you of love and care and suddenly one day shatter your dreams or start demanding in other ways for that love anything and everything can go wrong..but family – specially your parents they would always be there to support you. They would be strict and rude to you most of the times due to the generation gap but somehow they would end up being good for you in the long run. Today where i stand i think i owe it all to my mom who is now no more withe me but always in my thoughts and my dad who has been my biggest support. My elder brother with whom i have fought over things like a tv remote, when he didn’t approve of me having a bf (elder brothers i tell you!! 😉 ), for not being there with me when i wanted to play and he wanted to roam around with his friends. But he was always there when i did something wrong and wanted to be saved by the wrath of my parents he took it all on himself or he always kept a check on me who my friends were where am i going etc etc. Everything i am today is because of my parents and my brother. I love you guys!!muah muah!!!

Lesson Learnt 07: A woman always needs her girlfriends. They are like sisters you pick for yourself. I never understood the seriousness of this ten years back but now i can totally advertise this – Hell yeah!! I am in love with my girlfriends!!! No matter how old you grow , you have a man to love you, you would always need your girlfriends to go back to. I do agree friends could be both male and female but the kind of attachment you have with your girl gang  nothing can beat that friendship and it only grows stronger like a wine over the years. So invest that time in this friendship may be just calling up every one of them on a sunday afternoon over a conference call, meeting them for a coffee, asking them to help you go shopping, just talking to them right from that other girl in office to kitchen tips to sobbing about your heart-break to the new crush in office you would need them every time. I am glad to have found my besties over these ten years – Swetha, Ranjitha, Aakanksha, Sravani, Phanisri, Ahladini, Tulika, Nicy, Sriji and Sonam. These friends of mine have played different roles in my life – the caregiver, the crazy one, the rock, the opposite, the cool one, the honest one, the secret keeper, the i need to talk right now 🙂 🙂 🙂 And yup i have few guy friends who in the truest sense are my soul mates turned into friends without whom i guess i would always be incomplete. I love you guys too!! Who said soul mates only means lovers… isn’t it??

Lesson Learnt 08: Good education, financial stability, confidence is what a modern-day woman needs to have first for herself. Yes and i strongly live by it. Nothing more important than these three things and you could survive in this world. No matter if you have a financially stable partner one must always be have her own cash (for various reasons from moving out to buying something for yourself without thinking about the family obligations) Good education – knowledge is the strongest weapon one can have it can take you far and strong. Confidence- it may not bring you success but makes you ready to face all kinds of challenges.

So these are some of the lessons life has taught me in the last ten years from 18 to 28 life has been a roller coaster ride with so many twists and turns. Some hard times from which i have learnt to come out strong, some good ones which keeps the excitement and happiness emotion still dominant in me. I am not saying i know everything cause life is a journey and you learn with every step and turn. Like Maya Angelou said, “I know enough for today, for tomorrow I am learning.” Life is beautiful and we were born to be real and not perfect.

Ending with one of my fav quote – Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to Dance in the Rain!!!

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Sneha (gal from the island)

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