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#AtoZChallenge DAY22: V for VULNERABLE

Day: #22 || Alphabet : || Theme: Emotions || Word: Vulnerable

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As you all know besides taking up the #AtoZChallenge one more goal I had in mind was to encourage guest posts on my blog some who are my existing blogger friends and others who are not bloggers but are good at writing. And am so happy I managed to have four guest blogs already.

Finally today is the last guest blog in this challenge and that is being done by my dear friend Jennifer from Courage Coach and she has taken up the emotion VULNERABILITY. Thank you so much for your valuable time and writing on my blog. Really appreciate it Jenni ❤ ❤

~~ VULNERABILITY ~~

“You can’t get to courage without walking through vulnerability first” ~Brené Brown

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What do you think of when you hear the word vulnerable?  Does this word make you feel uncomfortable?  If so, you are not alone and in fact you are the majority.

When we think about being vulnerable or when we are actually experiencing vulnerability we are living outside our comfort zone because it means taking a risk and the risk is exposing yourself and not knowing what the response will be.  That is definitely uncomfortable.  It could be a good or bad response but what underlies it all is this willingness to expose yourself first and that’s what scares people the most.  Seeing how vulnerable we are can determine how courageous we can be.

Once we do embrace being vulnerable we walk into being courageous and that’s where the magic happens because when we are acting out of courage, we are taking action steps.  That action is layered with fear because that’s what being courageous is all about, it’s doing something despite the fact you are scared.  Otherwise courage would be a walk in the park, no big deal.  Being courageous is showing up to be seen.

Some examples of being vulnerable are; wanting to ask someone out on a date, wanting to express how you feel to someone you truly care about, waiting to hear back test results from your doctor and so on.  When you find the courage to take action on your vulnerabilities, you then walk into hope.  You hope that whatever you courageously do is going to produce the reaction you desire and wish for.  This chain reaction of vulnerability, courage and hope is centered around one thing the entire time and that is living wholeheartedly with an open mind and heart.

Brené Brown is the queen of this topic and if you haven’t seen her TED Talk video about vulnerability, I highly recommend you see it.

It’s a game changer 🙂

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation and change” ~Brené Brown

I would like to thank my sweet friend Sneha for asking me to be a guest blogger on her site during the A to Z Challenge.  “Thank you so much” 😀     I hope we can meet one day soon, Sneha! 😉

Much Love❤
Jen
xo

#AtoZChallenge DAY12: L for LOVE

Day: #12 || Alphabet : L || Theme: Emotions || Word: Love

Happy Vishu 😀  everyone and all the other Indian States Happy New Year like Bihu, Bengali new year, Tamil new year etc. May God bless you with loads of happiness and peace(success would definitely follow 😀 ) For the ones who don’t know what Vishu is click here.

So without any second thoughts it is very obvious that the emotion I chose today is LOVE ❤ ❤ ❤ That one emotion which makes us feel alive and which makes us want to live, to love someone is such a true emotion and to be loved equally is even more lucky. 

Love to me is special cause my name itself means LOVE. And how my name was kept is a story in itself which we shall talk about some other day (an interesting one like a typical Bollywood movie)

Today am not gonna add the meaning(Googled) of Love cause we all know what it means from the day we start breathing within our mothers womb – the most eternal and unconditional love one would ever feel.

11059611_10200707557928320_1514857430104046473_nAnd today I also have my very dear blogger friend who is now like my sweet little younger sister Pratyusha who blogs at Naughty Innocence  do a guest blog for me which is very different from other guest blogs cause its her singing one of her fav songs on LOVE. You should check out her blog and Soundcloud for more of her songs (All of Me by John Legend was so beautifully sung by her). She pens down emotions so beautifully, a techie by profession and a passionate singer and blogger by choice, am glad to have met her in my blogging journey (i have met her literally 😀 ) Thanks Prats for the beautiful song ❤

~~  LOVE  ~~

(click on the image below to listen to “You say it best” Cover by Prats)

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What is love? Did you know when love arrived, would you have known when love had arrived at first in your life, did you know when love left ?Since LOVE in itself is a world of emotions I also wanted to share another amazing spoken poetry video with you guys. I sincerely request you all to listen to this if you haven’t ; and would love to hear your thoughts and comments on it. 

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Also sharing INKOLOGY’s ILLUSTRATION (click the inkology word to check his work, they are amazing)

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P.S: For the complete list of the posts published as part of #AtoZChallenge click here ⇒

#AtoZChallenge DAY10: J for JEALOUSY

Day: #10 || Alphabet : J || Theme: Emotions || Word: Jealousy

Day 10 of #AtoZChallenge yes..ten days is an achievement in a 30 day daily challenge specially when its your first time ever and I am gonna celebrate it with another guest post by my very dear about whom I have mentioned many times in my blog – Vikas 

Vikas is a fun, handsome, athletic, traveler, trekker and super awesome writer besides being a very dear friend of mine who understands me so well. I have known him for hardly more than a year but sometimes you meet few people and you know they are gonna be by your side as friends for lifetime he is one such person. I can’t imagine how I would have fun at work if it wasn’t for him and my other friend Dilip. They are my Yin-Yang in life.

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I have asked Vikas a hundred times to start a blog cause his writings are worth sharing with the world. He comes up with such amazing stuff and all that locked in his google docs 😦 So i insisted him to write a guest blog for me and to see the response he gets. Maybe this guest blog would encourage him to start his own blog 🙂 ❤

And what better emotion to pick – JEALOUSY ,  i was sure he would come up with something amazing and here it goes. Thanks Vikas ❤ ❤ ❤

~~ JEALOUSY ~~

Being jealous is human.
Knowing of being jealous is self-awareness.
Accepting of being jealous is honest.
Still unable to do anything about it. Life.

One man’s pride is other man’s jealousy (and foolishness according to a third 😀 ) Jealousy or envy is considered one of the 7 great sins and it might not be a virtue in any distant way but i say it can definitely be an asset (surprised …. we will get to it soon .. 😏).
Lets start with what we have been fed (overfed rather) since childhood, be it school, home, movies, books or our favorite cartoons (Tom and Jerry is still the best by the way…. dude don’t even argue) that being jealous is not the right way of being, it is immoral and not virtuous. Even our beloved Game of Thrones, where everyone you like dies sooner or later, doesn’t miss on a single chance to show all the characters harboring slightest jealousy in a negative and demeaning light (too much observation … i know 😎 … but i wasn’t talking about Tyrion 😉).

Lets set the ground rules now.
That stinging feeling you go through when you look at your neighbors Mercedes while you get out of your own (non significant) car everyday or the flushing feel you get when you meet your best (dumb 😈) friends hot girlfriend for the first time, who you too had a crush on, and get face palmed right back by your barren life, that agony (how did he manage to pull this off) and pain, let’s face it, is one or the other form of jealousy. Do not mistake it for you feeling incompetent or unworthy. Its envy. And the sooner you can identify and accept it the better it can be circled around and dealt with, inside that ego of ours.
So we feel jealous of inconsequential things also sometimes (I meant the Mercedes … 😏), big deal. Own it and accept it. Stop thinking of yourself as some evil incarnation.

Now that we start accepting of being jealous, the tough part is done. We hear being jealous is bad, I say it’s a blessing in disguise (a wicked one nonetheless). Jealousy, like anger, if channelized in the right way can be a great asset.

We are ambitious, we work hard, we like succeeding but there is always someone you find who does things better (stop planning their accidental murder … right now). No harm in a little envy to creep in. Because all we have to do is see it as a challenge and direct the jealousy to make ourselves better instead of cribbing and making ourselves miserable.
Now go and tell that best (dumb) friend of yours this “you lucky dog, I am so jealous of you”, and see the broad smile on his face. He might even give away his secret of how he got the girl. Result – you guys are still best buddies and you learnt something new from him 😉. Moral – no more gyan(preaching) on jealousy just a fact that there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

The  Jealousy Smiley

#AtoZChallenge DAY05: E for EMPATHY

Day: #05 || Alphabet : E || Theme: Emotions || Word: Empathy

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Today the emotion I chose is EMPATHY as part of the ongoing #AtoZChallenge 2016. We all have heard the word Empathy, sounding very similar to Sympathy but the difference among these words are miles apart from beyond alphabets Em to Sym!  🙂 

What exactly is the definition of Empathy ? ( from Google )empathy

190802_3267946238027_298064659_oBesides taking up the challenge one more goal i had in mind was to make people guest blog for me specially the ones whom i know are such good writers but are just not up for starting a blog. And today one such special and very close friend of mine is doing guest blog for me. In fact I realized my love for writing when this buddy and me were colleagues in Accenture way back in 2011 and we shared our write ups with one another. We even used to end up writing random impromptu poems over the office communicator while chatting. So thank you Ketan Khurana for being my first inspiration to take up blogging in life ❤ ❤ Thank you Ketan for taking out time for me 

~~ EMPATHY ~~

Luxury and comfort is what we all desire to have and that feeling of inner peace would be an icing on the cake. But what we fail to understand in this rat race of ours that we are losing connection among ourselves.

When I was asked by my friend to be a guest writer on her blog and was given the alphabets to choose from, I was like common why do I even pull out time for this from my such hectic schedule but then when I sat down and thought about this dear friend and how important is this blog for her, I thought I can put in some efforts if not for the blog at least for her.

And during my effort to “write” I came across this sweet short story on the internet which goes like this:

A farmer had some puppies he needed to sell.  He painted a sign advertising the 4 pups and set about nailing it to a post on the edge of
his yard. As he was driving the last nail into the post, he felt a tug on his overalls. He looked down into the eyes of a little boy.

“Mister,” he said, “I want to buy one of your puppies.”

“Well,” said the farmer, as he rubbed the sweat off the back of his neck, “These puppies come from fine parents and cost a good deal of money.”

The boy dropped his head for a moment. Then reaching deep into his pocket, he pulled out a handful of change and held it up to the farmer.

“I’ve got thirty-nine cents. Is that enough to take a look?”  “Sure,” said the farmer. And with that he let out a whistle. “Here, Dolly!” he called.

Out from the doghouse and down the ramp ran Dolly followed by four little balls of fur.  The little boy pressed his face against the chain link fence. His eyes danced with delight. As the dogs made their way to the fence, the little boy noticed something else stirring inside the doghouse.  Slowly another little ball appeared this one noticeably smaller. Down the ramp it slid. Then in a somewhat awkward manner, the little pup began hobbling toward the others, doing its best to catch up…

“I want that one,” the little boy said, pointing to the runt. The farmer knelt down at the boy’s side and said,”Son, you don’t want that puppy. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other dogs would.”

With that the little boy stepped back from the fence, reached down, and began rolling up one leg of his trousers.  In doing so he revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe.  Looking back up at the farmer, he said, “You see sir, I don’t run too well myself, and he will need someone who understands.”

With this above Story I would like to take this opportunity to say that Sneha we both understand the word empathy and can relate to the times in Bangalore and to the time now. Thank you for helping in during my trouble days in Bangalore when you yourself were not in a very good shape 😉 . This is what Empathy is staying there for your friends when they most need it and haven’t told anything but you know it.

No Luxury and comfort would bring you such peace if you don’t have any compassion or if you don’t empathize to what your friends feel. Friends is not all about fun and good times, friends are also about consoling and standing by. Sneha Sasikumar you truly are a friend.

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I am also leaving you all with this video clip which am insisting you all to watch. I had shared it earlier also but I think it makes much more sense now. 

The  Empathy Smiley(not really a smiley but pretty much the same)

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#AtoZChallenge Day04: D for DISAPPOINTMENT

Day: #04 || Alphabet : D || Theme: Emotions || Word: Disappointment

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Today is the fourth day into the #AtoZChallenge and the Emotion I have chosen is DISAPPOINTMENT  Yeah! Not all the times one can be in a happy state of mind. We humans always have expectations from others especially the ones we consider close to us. And there is no harm in it as far as it doesn’t break us down so bad that rising up again becomes impossible.

What exactly is the definition of Disappointment? (all my definitions are from Google *)

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Today my very dear blogger friend DARSHITH, whom many of us already know, is doing a guest post on this topic for me. Thank you, Darcie, for doing the guest blog ❤ .This is what he has to say !!! Please visit his blog for some interesting posts

~~ DISAPPOINTMENT  ~~

The final stage of any relationship is always DISAPPOINTMENT. You ask why? Let me explain.

When was the last time you were stood up? Or the last time your call was not received by somebody whose call you’d never miss? Or the last time you were taken as an option when you made others your first priority?

This kind of situations come & go and that’s okay. That’s life. But when we start to expect things from others(due to our good nature or because that’s how we are made), things go south for us. Disappointment is the baggage of expectations. Less the expectation, less the disappointment. That’s a pretty simple equation but then very difficult to achieve.

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Life is a constant struggle of being better today than what we were yesterday. This struggle means trying to make the above equation true. Whether we achieve or not, it’s a far away thing but we always have to try.

Disappointment also stays away when we live in the moment. That’s again difficult to achieve. But we keep on trying.

I would had been really disappointed if I didn’t participate in this AtoZ challenge but I did & tried to have fewer expectations(no steep increase in views or fame) and things are looking good as of now. Everything within limits is good & so is expectations as that will keep disappointment at bay.

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That’s it. It was an honor to write as a guest author here @ Life as a Potpourri. Sneha(I call her Janemann) is awesome & I am glad we both are participants of this A to Z challenge.

 

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