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#AtoZChallenge DAY22: V for VULNERABLE

Day: #22 || Alphabet : || Theme: Emotions || Word: Vulnerable

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As you all know besides taking up the #AtoZChallenge one more goal I had in mind was to encourage guest posts on my blog some who are my existing blogger friends and others who are not bloggers but are good at writing. And am so happy I managed to have four guest blogs already.

Finally today is the last guest blog in this challenge and that is being done by my dear friend Jennifer from Courage Coach and she has taken up the emotion VULNERABILITY. Thank you so much for your valuable time and writing on my blog. Really appreciate it Jenni ❤ ❤

~~ VULNERABILITY ~~

“You can’t get to courage without walking through vulnerability first” ~Brené Brown

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What do you think of when you hear the word vulnerable?  Does this word make you feel uncomfortable?  If so, you are not alone and in fact you are the majority.

When we think about being vulnerable or when we are actually experiencing vulnerability we are living outside our comfort zone because it means taking a risk and the risk is exposing yourself and not knowing what the response will be.  That is definitely uncomfortable.  It could be a good or bad response but what underlies it all is this willingness to expose yourself first and that’s what scares people the most.  Seeing how vulnerable we are can determine how courageous we can be.

Once we do embrace being vulnerable we walk into being courageous and that’s where the magic happens because when we are acting out of courage, we are taking action steps.  That action is layered with fear because that’s what being courageous is all about, it’s doing something despite the fact you are scared.  Otherwise courage would be a walk in the park, no big deal.  Being courageous is showing up to be seen.

Some examples of being vulnerable are; wanting to ask someone out on a date, wanting to express how you feel to someone you truly care about, waiting to hear back test results from your doctor and so on.  When you find the courage to take action on your vulnerabilities, you then walk into hope.  You hope that whatever you courageously do is going to produce the reaction you desire and wish for.  This chain reaction of vulnerability, courage and hope is centered around one thing the entire time and that is living wholeheartedly with an open mind and heart.

Brené Brown is the queen of this topic and if you haven’t seen her TED Talk video about vulnerability, I highly recommend you see it.

It’s a game changer 🙂

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation and change” ~Brené Brown

I would like to thank my sweet friend Sneha for asking me to be a guest blogger on her site during the A to Z Challenge.  “Thank you so much” 😀     I hope we can meet one day soon, Sneha! 😉

Much Love❤
Jen
xo

#AtoZChallenge DAY05: E for EMPATHY

Day: #05 || Alphabet : E || Theme: Emotions || Word: Empathy

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Today the emotion I chose is EMPATHY as part of the ongoing #AtoZChallenge 2016. We all have heard the word Empathy, sounding very similar to Sympathy but the difference among these words are miles apart from beyond alphabets Em to Sym!  🙂 

What exactly is the definition of Empathy ? ( from Google )empathy

190802_3267946238027_298064659_oBesides taking up the challenge one more goal i had in mind was to make people guest blog for me specially the ones whom i know are such good writers but are just not up for starting a blog. And today one such special and very close friend of mine is doing guest blog for me. In fact I realized my love for writing when this buddy and me were colleagues in Accenture way back in 2011 and we shared our write ups with one another. We even used to end up writing random impromptu poems over the office communicator while chatting. So thank you Ketan Khurana for being my first inspiration to take up blogging in life ❤ ❤ Thank you Ketan for taking out time for me 

~~ EMPATHY ~~

Luxury and comfort is what we all desire to have and that feeling of inner peace would be an icing on the cake. But what we fail to understand in this rat race of ours that we are losing connection among ourselves.

When I was asked by my friend to be a guest writer on her blog and was given the alphabets to choose from, I was like common why do I even pull out time for this from my such hectic schedule but then when I sat down and thought about this dear friend and how important is this blog for her, I thought I can put in some efforts if not for the blog at least for her.

And during my effort to “write” I came across this sweet short story on the internet which goes like this:

A farmer had some puppies he needed to sell.  He painted a sign advertising the 4 pups and set about nailing it to a post on the edge of
his yard. As he was driving the last nail into the post, he felt a tug on his overalls. He looked down into the eyes of a little boy.

“Mister,” he said, “I want to buy one of your puppies.”

“Well,” said the farmer, as he rubbed the sweat off the back of his neck, “These puppies come from fine parents and cost a good deal of money.”

The boy dropped his head for a moment. Then reaching deep into his pocket, he pulled out a handful of change and held it up to the farmer.

“I’ve got thirty-nine cents. Is that enough to take a look?”  “Sure,” said the farmer. And with that he let out a whistle. “Here, Dolly!” he called.

Out from the doghouse and down the ramp ran Dolly followed by four little balls of fur.  The little boy pressed his face against the chain link fence. His eyes danced with delight. As the dogs made their way to the fence, the little boy noticed something else stirring inside the doghouse.  Slowly another little ball appeared this one noticeably smaller. Down the ramp it slid. Then in a somewhat awkward manner, the little pup began hobbling toward the others, doing its best to catch up…

“I want that one,” the little boy said, pointing to the runt. The farmer knelt down at the boy’s side and said,”Son, you don’t want that puppy. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other dogs would.”

With that the little boy stepped back from the fence, reached down, and began rolling up one leg of his trousers.  In doing so he revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe.  Looking back up at the farmer, he said, “You see sir, I don’t run too well myself, and he will need someone who understands.”

With this above Story I would like to take this opportunity to say that Sneha we both understand the word empathy and can relate to the times in Bangalore and to the time now. Thank you for helping in during my trouble days in Bangalore when you yourself were not in a very good shape 😉 . This is what Empathy is staying there for your friends when they most need it and haven’t told anything but you know it.

No Luxury and comfort would bring you such peace if you don’t have any compassion or if you don’t empathize to what your friends feel. Friends is not all about fun and good times, friends are also about consoling and standing by. Sneha Sasikumar you truly are a friend.

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I am also leaving you all with this video clip which am insisting you all to watch. I had shared it earlier also but I think it makes much more sense now. 

The  Empathy Smiley(not really a smiley but pretty much the same)

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Empathy Vs Sympathy – Did you know?

We all must have heard the word Empathy, sounds very similar to Sympathy which we as humans always are good at getting for ourselves and giving it to others around us. But the difference among these words are miles apart from beyond those three alphabets Em to Sym!  🙂

Empathy as per the dictionary definition means, “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another” whereas, Sympathy means “feelings of pity and sorrow for someone else’s misfortune.” .

To describe the difference beyond words i am gonna share a video today which i happen to come across recently on YouTube. I think there is lot to learn from this big internet gift called YouTube beyond watching videos. You can learn so many things from people all around the world. And similarly sometimes, Blogging is all about sharing stuff not necessarily what one thinks but also what someone else thinks or knows that could help everyone.. isn’t it???

P.S – they also have many such videos and are worth watching