Thanks to the Daily Promptssection of WordPress for coming up with these beautiful prompts which instantly triggers you to pen down your views. I am not a regular follower of the prompts section, but there are days which just inspires me to talk out loud about my opinions with you all. And today’s prompt that is the source of this post is Companion
~~ Being Your Own Best Friend ~~
Sometimes all you need is being with your own self, being your biggest critic, being your own best friend, being your own companion 24×7. It is very important specially when you are emotionally down, and feeling miserable. Consider a situation when your best friend is feeling the same what would you do?? Have a small little pep talk, pamper her by taking her out shopping, cook good yummy food, try to understand where the sadness is coming from etc right? Do all this to yourself.
Why wait for someone else to come and do all this to you, remember everyone is going to be a visitor in your life but that one person who is always gonna be around you is you yourself. So go ahead and take the liberty of making yourself feel better. And who else would know the things that can make you feel good and cheer you up ….. think about it!! 🙂 🙂 ❤ Be friends with yourself, be kind, take care of yourself. It’s the best relationship you can have in this world. It’s tough during days when you are really really low and stubborn and gloomy, step aside and treat this self of yours as your best friend and am sure you’ll see the changes.
~~ Be less judgemental about others ~~
What i mean here is train yourself to see good in others. Sometimes it’s all about finding happiness in others that brings those vibes of happiness and positivity in and around you. Go head compliment someone about something they do that really inspired you. Meet people with no prejudice everyone has their own battle but let that not be your criteria of picking people in your life. It’s important to socialize with people and for that you need to be welcoming them in your lives and not be judgemental about them.
~~ Try and be in a positive environment ~~
Have a positive and clean space in life. You cannot control people around you, there could be people with whom your frequency won’t match but you just cannot shoo them off from your life specially when its family members and some really good friends. There could be days when you need to take yourself out of that situation and try to be positive about it. It’s our responsibility to either make that situation better and improve the tensions. And there could be times when you really need to ignore the negative person, and not waste your happiness and peace of mind with them. Being the worst scenarios, don’t feel intimidated and wish them love and say a goodbye. It’s good to remove weight from your ankles at times so that you can move ahead in life.
~~ Find what makes you happy instantly ~~
This could be anything from listening to your favourite music, see beautiful things around, reading an inspirational book, watching a movie or affirmation videos. It could be as simple as cooking a nice meal and enjoying it with a glass of red wine, travelling to a place and nourishing not just your physical body but even your soul. Pick anything that brings instant joy or a smile on your face Find those small instant boosters that can bring out the happiness quotient in you. Who better would know it other than your companion – YOU.
Remember what gives me joy and happiness might not be relatable to you. So find your happiness quotient. Find it and live it. Be your best friend, be your number one supporter. Compliment yourself, encourage yourself, be the pillow to yourself on days when you need to cry. Love and mould yourself and create that positive aura around you.
!!! Those who mind, don’t matter. Those who matter, don’t mind !!!
Disclaimer : This is gonna be one emotional blog post for obvious reasons it is surrounded around the most strongest women i have seen in my life or shall ever see again – my mother. And so to cut down words was little tough. I need to work on my editing skills. 😦
As i was going through the “What next to blog” zone i came across the Daily Prompt about My Favorite -“What’s the most time you’ve ever spent apart from your favorite person? Tell us about it.” prompt alert. And i knew instantly what am gonna write.
My Mom being my favorite person in literal sense am gonna be apart from her for an entire lifetime now until i go to the grave and join her in heaven(assuming am not kicked to hell cause am no saint and my mother definitely making her place in heaven 🙂 ) So this is to you mother.
All i am today i owe it to you Mom ❤ 🙂
My mom’s name was HAWAUMMA which means the first woman in someone’s life and hell yeah indeed she was. I don’t really wana talk about her childhood and keep this blog boring; but i do want to tell that she has always been strong since a kid and she made her way through in life. Becoming a Teacher, being a Muslim she fell in love with my dad who is a Hindu they got married on Feb 10th 1980. Their love story is just like any other romantic story – romance, drama, action, conspiracy a complete Bollywood movie set in the 70’s and 80’s. They stood by one another through all the tough times against families and society norms (an inter religion marriage in India back in the 80’s was a big thing) and they lived happily for 31 years of wedded life. I can write it down on a paper anybody back home in Andaman Islands who knows them will definitely have something to tell you about the love these two pure souls shared. They were a symbol of perfect couple who stood by everything that came their way and made a world of their own.
I have seen how my mother used to take care of the entire house besides being a working mom. She was always there for bhaiya, I have an elder brother who is 34 now and married, for my dad for me for all her friends and relatives. She was the most warm person i have ever come across. She knew me and i am sure she is the only person who knew me in and out. She always gave me assurance about how good i am as a daughter, as a person. She always welcomed people in her home with open arms and lots of love in her heart. She always like any other mom would do kept her happiness secondary to everybody else’s in the house. A particular dress i wanted for my dance program or that new gadget my brother wanted or a new furniture piece for the house she always was the one to compromise.
I remember that day when she first fell crashing on the floor, i was in my 6th std the year 2000 and had just woken up and suddenly i saw her falling down. She was rushed to the hospital and then the tests the reports came she was suffering from Rheumatoid Arthritis – a chronic progressive disease causing inflammation in the joints and resulting in painful deformity and immobility, especially in the fingers, wrists, feet, and ankles. This was very new to people back home. And since then till 17th July 2011 when she left us all here alone i have seen her go through immense pain and suffering. Many reasons for that lack of knowledge about the whole disease, trying all possible kinds of healing Allopathy, Ayurveda, Homeopathy even doing all the non scientific stuff cause of the only hope that she would be better one day.
I am happy she is way far from all those suffering and pain and am sure she is having fun up there. I have learnt a million things from her that i carry in my heart every single day. Hundreds of promises that i had made to her that keeps me going strong. And some of them is what i want to share with you all.
#1 – Believe in yourself : She knew exactly what she always wanted to do. When everyone discouraged her she did what she knew was right in her head and her heart. She said believe in yourself and one day the world would believe in you.
#2 – Family is where love begins and ends : No matter how successful you become, how many friends you make, how many people come and go in your life- your family will always be there for you and more specifically your parents. They would scold you, ground you, be rude to you but they would always have good for you in their heart.
#3 – Never say no unless you have tried: I have seen her letting herself experiment with so many medications cause she believed unless u try how would u know its good or bad. Sometimes you would fail and sometimes you would succeed. I have seen her preparing for her Post Graduation exam at the age of 45yrs and setting an example that age is just a number. The good part is whenever you failed you would know what never to do again or if doing it again how differently you can.
#4 – Value people who stand by you during your bad times: My mom had so many friends and she always valued them and treated them as family. In fact all my moms friends are more like my family than my extended relatives. She was always there for them and so were they for her. Its not in the good times you show friendship but times when everybody leaves you and you still have people backing you up those are the people you should cherish forever.
#5 – Do things that make you happy: My entire childhood i was busy getting trained in classical dance and performing stage shows. And she always stood by me as a support cause she knew that made me happy. And seeing her child happy was what made her happy in return. I know days when it was hard for her to even stand up on her own but she would come all the way in that pain to see me perform on the stage and would just say one thing – “All my pain just vanishes when i see you on that big stage and people clapping for you. All my pain vanishes when you make me proud”. She always told me to pursue all those hobbies that bring happiness within me. Work is something you have to do to earn your bread, but things that you do to make you happy is what should be always done and never stopped. My dancing, writing everything comes from her.
#6 – Forgive and more importantly Forget: I am the kinds who always forgives easily but its very hard for me to forgive those people and my mom told this to me that what is the point of not letting go. What is the point in forgiving and not forgetting You only harm yourself doing that. One who forgives and one who forgets is much more bigger a person than the one who asks for forgiveness. I have seen so many people do wrong to her and yet she would love them respect them and treat them like her own. She said love can conquer the world and she did mean it.
#7 – You would know how well you have done as a person on your funeral day: I always laughed at this as a kid cause i would question her how would you know cause you wont be alive right and she would just smile and tell you are a kid now, one day you will. I remember the day when her last rituals were being done and the number of people who had turned up to see her. I felt as if am some celebrity’s daughter for a sec cause i had only seen this in the movies or in the news when some famous person passed. Even weeks after she left there were so many people coming home to give pay condolences. All her students, colleagues in her entire career, every person whose life she touched just by her presence was there to give her a farewell. And that is the day i knew that when i leave this world i would want to go like this with so many people around me.
#8 – There is never a tomorrow unless there is a today: There were days when i would not talk to her cause i would be caught up with work or be out with friends exploring the new independent life that i had as a career woman. And i would tell in my head i ll call mom tomorrow and then the tomorrow never came. Or the festival i kinda skipped to work those extra hours and was not home to be with mom and dad. And let me tell you this the day when life would hit you hard you would know what mistake you have done and you ll never get a chance to rectify it. I remember when i was leaving for a birthday party celebration it was almost a week now that i had not spoken to her even more cause she was unable to talk during the last days and i would always insist dad its okay i ll talk to her tomorrow. We partied hard came back and crashed into bed, we had a dinner party the next day. I wake up in the morning and i see calls from dad and relatives asking me and my brother who stayed in the same city to come home asap cause mom was in ICU and was critical. That day and the next day that followed i wish i could just undo from my life. We booked tickets my brother and me flew to Kolkata then stayed overnight at the airport and on Monday we took flight to Port Blair, Andaman. I remember getting down at the airport waiting for dad to come pick us up and i see many of my relatives and bhaiyas friends. We dint turn towards the hospital road instead we reach home. I remember getting down the car and seeing people all lined up around the corner of our street.Many unknown faces, few familiar ones and as i started taking a step closer to home i see all those eyes with tears, people who were my family there and it hit me that what i see when i enter the house would be something i would not even want to dream. I see her there in the living room lying in peace and eyes closed forever. I knew she was gone forever. And the number of things that came in mind i cant tell you people it still haunts me. All those times when i spoke to her in a louder tone, every time i did something which made her angry or disapointed her, every such incident which gave her pain, all those times when i saw “mom calling” on the mobile screen and i would put it on mute i had lost that chance of rectifying those mistakes. I would never get to tell her how much i loved her and how proud a daughter i was. I would never get a tomorrow. All i had was a today when i should have done things and i didn’t.
Sometimes we are so involved in our lives that we forget to do those small gestures of love and kindness to our close and loved ones. We forget to tell our parents how much we love them whereas we are never too busy to tell our managers and leads about our project status. We always make time to get into a social gathering with colleagues or a business lunch that we attend but we chose to not attend those festival celebrations with our own siblings with whom we have grown up. We forget to take time to call up our friends and ask them how they have been doing but we make sure we ask our colleagues ‘hey dude how was the weekend?’. If only we realized all this now and not later when people are forever gone from our lives. I have been through breakup but i knew that person exists some where i could get back and say a hello any day i want to but when someone as close as your mom leaves its a void, you can never pickup a call and say a hello ever again. You can never get a chance to hear someones voice once they are gone forever. You can never get a chance to touch the person when they are gone forever. You can never ever once they are gone.
So this is to all of you and me make time for your loved ones, make that 5 minutes in your life to call up the people who love you so unconditionally. Make it a point to call up your parents and tell them how much you love them and how proud a son or daughter you are. Call up those friends who were with you when even your family didn’t understand you. Call up your sibling who fought for you with parents and stood by you, who was your first friend. And to all those who are still standing by you and loving you value them. I am glad to have a dad who has never let me realize the loss of a mother. He has been my hero and shall forever be. I have learnt from him what it is to love unconditionally beyond physical appearance and looks, to take care of the loved ones first and think about yourself later. My mom’s story is complete if its not my dad who had been with her all those years of pain and suffering and instead just showered her with love,care, trust, faith and hope and the will to be a better person the next day. So call your loved ones now!!!
“If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane.I would walk right up to Heaven and bring you back again. No farewell words were spoken, No time to say “Goodbye”. You were gone before I knew it, and only God knows why. My heart still aches with sadness, and secret tears still flow. What it meant to love you – No one can ever know.”
I love you mom, my life without you shall always be incomplete. I hope you are doing awesome up there and have made friends quickly like you always do. Dad misses you the most. Bhaiya was always close to you and he misses you every single day. And for me, no one can understand the mother-daughter relation ever so you know how much i miss u. We all do like crazily miss you every day of our life. There is never a time when your friends don’t talk about you without a tear in their eyes. Life would have been so much better if you had stayed a little longer! Love u. Muah!!! ❤
Happy Sunday people!!!! December is such a lovely month of the year so much of fun,celebration,happiness,festivities all around. People talking about taking vacations, talking about the new resolutions (of which 50% are the incomplete ones of the current year …including me as well) .
On that note am not gonna talk about December and Resolutions on this post, but in fact this post is going to be another one inspired from the Daily Promptswhich i don’t refer daily, am to moody about it 😛 😛 😛 So this time the prompt was Flawed – What is your worst quality?? Now who would wanna talk about their own worst quality on a blog??!!!
And i realized, aren’t these The Flaws that make us different from the person standing right next to me, cause they are MY FLAWS.!!! Imperfection is Individuality!!! and i totally believe that thought. What is the fun being perfect and boring and mundane, it’s better being weird and crazy and fun and interesting… 🙂
So talking about my flaws i have many like i expect a lot from my loved ones, i don’t like being lonely ( i have never understood the funda behind “My time”, never works for me), i don’t like the way i look when it comes to certain features like the scar of six stitches on my nose bridge , i am lazy, i don’t like sleeping which is bad for health blah blah blah 😦 😦 😦 but keeping all that aside, my WORST QUALITY is i have this new syndrome termed by my very close friends, am not sure if there is a medical term for this but they call it PERIODIC ATTRACTION – and this is a fun kinda syndrome cause it applies on almost every aspect of my life be it towards people, things, activities!!! Yeah you heard it right!! 😦 Below is a detailed report of this syndrome/flaw. Hope u have fun diagnosing it. Kindly ignore the handwriting(it’s a lil tough after the thumb injury but somehow looks more realistic considering the handwriting of the doctors which only they and the pharmacist understand 🙂 )
Periodic Attraction Report
Yup that’s the report, and unfortunately after all these years my family and friends have not been able to come up with a treatment to this Worst Quality of mine! But few of them have said that i am kinda improving now and to justify that they have my continuous Blogging as proof which initially many thought i would give up after a month or two like i have done before. So yeah am showing positive healing signs 😛 but they do tell me that they find this Syndrome/Worst Quality in me pretty interesting and fascinating cause it keeps them all entertained.
I am happy the way i am , i think that makes me ME!! I do agree there are few flaws which i really need to correct like sleeping on time, being not so lazy etc. but this periodic attraction does happen many times in my life but i just can’t help it so i am trying to let people know about it around me so that then i have this challenge of proving them wrong 😛
I am happy I am flawed, I hate perfection! I find them utterly boring! Now tell me what are your flaws??? Do u love them!!!
How i ended up to make this post?? I was looking for these different blogging write up challenges and other random stuff and i came across the Daily Prompts
Though today’s Daily Prompt was – Home Turf i ended up on the search page as the prompt “Tattoo” and this simply brought a smile on my face cause – I AM INKED 🙂 Yeah people and i am totally in love with them (yeah got 2) and I am gonna talk about them in my blog today.
What do Tattoos mean to me? To sum up everything that i feel about tattoos i read somewhere which totally justifies what i feel about the tattoos and it read as “Tattoos are the only things you take to the grave. Having tattoos does not make you a delinquent or a thug..its art! Art is about self expression and creativity. Some people hang their art, we wear ours!” And both my tattoos are very close to my heart cause i had put in a lot of thought in designing them my self.
My First Tattoo:
Inked on : 31st December 2010 Tattoo placing: Left upper back shoulder Colors used : Purely black Location : Get Inked Tattoo Studio, Hyderabad, India.Story behind the Tattoo : I was always fantasized by people who had tattoos, i just wanted to go ahead and ask them what they meant, why they needed it etc etc. I started reading about them, their meanings, placing on the body, inks to be used, precautions and everything about tattooing during my college days. I was very scared though – not of the needle or the pain but scared of mom & dad 😛 Not that they are narrow minded or very strict but i think no parent would like the idea of their kids getting inked. So i waited for the right moment and took all my time to think about what i would be getting inked. And so when i moved on from the student phase (After my graduation) to a corporate independent woman i decided its time i get myself inked that would remind me the kind of person i would wanna be in life.
Tattoo meaning : It has four elements – the girl – I am proud to be born as a girl, someone who could give life,someone who is a symbol of both compassion and strength. The wings – for the independence and freedom i would have in my thoughts and actions, the skull – to bury all that brings me down and yet helps me learn from the mistakes and grow as a better person and finally the fire – to always have the spontaneity, fighting spirit and youthfulness.So here is my first tattoo
My Second Tattoo:
Inked on : 26th January 2013 Tattoo placing: Left hand inner side near the elbow Colors used : Black and with shades of white Location : Dragon ink Tattoos, Goa, India. Story behind the Tattoo : I lost my mom to a disease she was suffering from for close to 14 years. She was the strongest woman i have ever know and will ever know. She lived all the odds against the society, married the man she loved despite being from different religious backgrounds, for nurturing us and making us better human beings, for being the most loved teacher of her students. So when she passed away i decided to make her stay with me life long by getting her name inked. And i didn’t had to think of a design much cause her name itself is so beautiful that all i needed was to get her name inked.
Tattoo meaning : My mom’s name HAWAUMMA – which means – The first lady in someones life (how true right?? 🙂 ) that is written in Hindi script ( The Indian language) along with an anchor – that means strength and a heart that in this case shows weakness (you only feel weak for someone when you love them so much) . So the overall tattoo meaning – The first lady in my life – my mother – who is both my strength and weakness.
Another Tattoo ?? I might get two more tattoos 😉 One i have in mind with the design also framed in my mind, but that’s only when i reach that age in life – cant predict if i am gonna see the sunrise tomorrow so yeah holding on to that. If i am lucky to live those many years i would definitely get the tattoo i have in mind from last couple of years inked for sure. The third tattoo pretty soon – couple of months!! Will keep you guys posted. This one would be another milestone in my life.
——- Updated on 24th November 2015 ——-
My Third Tattoo: –
I didn’t realize i would end up getting the third tattoo so soon even though i had mentioned couple of months when i originally posted this on 25th Sep 😛 ehhh these are damn addictive!! So here is my THIRD TATTOO and this one being the smallest one so far.
Inked on : 12th November 2015 Tattoo placing: Right hand wrist parallel to the arm side Colors used : Black and with shades of white Location : Skin Deep, Bangalore, India . Story behind the Tattoo : As you knew i already had in mind to get another tattoo and was just waiting for the right time and this was a holiday, i really had this feeling of just going and getting inked so all of a sudden i call up the tattoo studio book an appointment and there i am within 20 minutes. And yeah it was raining like crazy and still i managed to go (being the lazy person i am)
Tattoo meaning : Ideally the tattoo symbolize – Faith Love Hope, one symbol for each of the words –simply meaning these three things that’s gonna last forever in a person’s life. Faith-love-hope tattoos come to our rescue when our beliefs oppose what we experience in reality. To sum it all up, this design explains that the pulse of life that will keep beating only if we get an ongoing doze of faith, love, and hope. A simple-yet-powerful thought for the soul! Only modification being i changed the Faith which is generally a cross to a Semi-colon that has its own story to tell. A semicolon is used when an author could’ve chosen to end their sentence, but chose not to. The author is you and the sentence is your life .Now people do not get wrong ideas, i never wanted to commit a suicide :P, but i did take the artistic and metaphorical meaning of constant reminder of the things I’ve overcome in my life – be it loss of my mother, depression, anxiety, fear, insecurity etc.So will i get more of these tattoos – I DON’T KNOW!! 😛 But yeah i do have a tattoo already designed in my head as mentioned earlier which i would if i celebrate my 50th bdy. But between the age 28-50 anymore tattoos the answer is I don’t know 🙂
Khalil Gibran once said that people will never understand one another unless language is reduced to seven words. What would your seven words be? In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: Seven Wonders
Personally everyone must have something in life that can keep them going ahead in life. It could be some sort of motto, principle, a statement, a quote or a saying they believe in that keeps one pushing forward and not giving up on the journey of life. 🙂 🙂 And i managed to sum up mine in Seven Words that works Wonders for me every time am low, happy, confused, scared or in a huge chaos of emotionsssssssss.. and that is something that i have been using(a summarized version) it in all my blog posts at the end as well –
LIVE. LOVE. LAUGH. And keep it going!!!
Yes, and this is what i truly believe in every single day. I LIVE and not survive, i LOVE all the people in my life, i LAUGH as much as possible its healing and finally i keep it going on repeat mode 🙂 🙂 🙂
Do you have a Seven Word Wonder??? Let me know!!!
Stay happy Stay blessed! 🙂 and wishing all my friends a Happy Dussehra(Indians would know) for my non-Indian friends it’s the festival where Good Triumphs over Evil!!!